Separation and Divorce
That is the quiet courage of co-parenting.
And that can bring up grief that many parents do not know how to name. You may love that your child has a relationship with their other parent. You may believe in shared parenting. You may know it is important for your child to feel connected to both homes.
You can support your child's relationship with their other parent and still miss them deeply when they are gone. You can be grateful they are loved in both homes and still feel the emptiness of a quiet house.
Along the spectrum of divorce
Talk with your children about separation, divorce, and what's next
Prepare to talk with your children about separation, divorce, and what's next, honestly and age-appropriately.
Grief and guilt
Process the grief and emotional residue of the relationship, so you can show up differently moving forward.
A more intentional, structured, and child-centered way forward
Practical systems for communication, boundaries, decision-making, and resolving disagreements.
Both things can be true.
I know that separation and divorce can bring out the hardest parts of people, even parents who love their children deeply. Both things can be true.
It's about helping parents shift their focus from what's happened between them to what their children need from them now.
The emotional work of divorce
My book, The Coparents Path, guides readers through the emotional work of divorce, with tools to reduce tension, manage triggers, build better communication habits, and work through tough topics like parenting plans, new partners, and inconsistent co-parents.
Coparent Coaching
Forward-focused
We build what comes next, with one parent or both.
Therapy
Massachusetts residents
For the deeper impacts of a painful experience, alongside coaching.
FAQ
What do I tell my children first?
We prepare that conversation together, so it's honest, age-appropriate, and keeps adult details between adults.
Is it too early for coaching?
No. Parents come to me at every point along the spectrum of divorce.
Can therapy and coaching happen at the same time?
Therapy is available to Massachusetts residents. In a free consult we can talk about whether one or both fits.
Do we need to get along first?
No. You don't need to be friends with your co-parent to create a healthier experience for your children.